My wife had an affair about eight months ago, and I caught her out she says nothing physical happened just an emotional affair but notes she has written in n her phone say differently.


She still denies the intimacy, she also says she is over the affair, yet last week I saw the message she sent him to see how he was, she then wrote a letter stating how she wants to know if he used her or if it was just a physical thing, for her it was emotional.


Two weeks ago I felt like I was getting back to normal with trust and everything; she just ripped open that wound. Now I don’t know what to think and do.


She says she still loves me and wants to make it work; she needs to sort out her head.


I have no idea what to do, we have three young kids, and I still love her, but I can’t take any more emotional stress I want this guy out of our lives and her head.


Please, any advice would do. Am I being played or has too much damage been done already.